Putting self development training to the test. In these blogs I am reading and testing the Intimate Modeling course from Ken Haberman.
Why we should feel good
Somewhere Ken writes “Seeking joy should be the first part of any plan for positive changes”. I think this recaps what is all is about. When we feel good we attract more good.
I now see that in my own situation I often forget to act upon this wisdom. Which is strange – because I can easily see that in the situation of others. It means that I al gratefully reading this book.
It is true that I am often confronted with negative emotions. The best way to deal with those is is to reset them by feeling as good as we can at this moment. Intimate Modeling explains clearly how. As I am writing – I am feeling a lot better already.
I’m feeling this good that I want to share this feeling with the redaction from a magazine (I met the owner once). I’m looking for their email address. It’s a magazine on the psychology of feeling good.
The second week starts by five mindset that I am to consider and accept. Ken Haberman explains all of them in simple words so that them really come into my hearth.
- Choose to live in the now
- That’s right. So many guru’s, religions, wise people tell exactly the same
- Simple – but it doesn’t mean it’s easy
- Make feeling good your TOP priority
- What can I think to feel better now?
- What can I do to feel better now?
- Adopt biases which empower you
- Express gratitude often
- I already do so!
- And this empowers me to do more
- Gratitude is a habit as is complaining. The first is the best – then we concentrate on the good.
- Treat your feelings as your inner GPS
- This is about thrusting our feelings
- Bad feelings are warnings signs to change course
Making a list with biases
I’m to make a lits of biases that make me feel good. Three of them. Right now – I wouldn’t know any that suits me. I feel I need some time, help from someone – or just do a major effort. It’s late in the evening as I’m writing…. F*** just make an effort. Pfff..
- Everyone know that working with me empowers them
- I’m a source of inspiration to my contacts
- If there is a way – I will find it. And there always is a way.
Are these the kind of biases that Ken refers to? I’ll ask him.
Questions running my mind
Even getting every mindset into my hearth – there is sentences that I struggle with. For example: “We are not governed by the past”. I am! That is how I feel now. And for sure this is a problem for me right now. I will have to change my mind on that. I will!!
That is funny again. I can see that easily with others. But not with me.
From now on I will treat unwanted thoughts as I do with unwanted guests. Not by fighting them, but by turning them away.
It reminds me of a good friend who sold his business and started a completely new business in which not too many people believed to be the right business. He said: “I succeeded in the last business – I will succeed in this business too”. This response give me power to act the same way of thinking. My friend now has a successful and amazing business inspiring thousands of others.
What I am grateful for
Really – this is going to be an endless list. It makes no sense to write it all in this blog. I learned to feel gratitude at any moment for anything that happens. Usually I find that easy (I know that it’s not easy for everyone). But sometimes it’s hard. When being confronted with someone who is angry at me for example. Then I need to be silent for a few seconds (that’s also a habit). My habit in all difficult situations is:
- Look – at what is happening
- Choose – what can I do? What are the options?
- Vote – for the best option
- Do – act it out.
It all happens in a second. I learned this technique many years ago during a coaching training. And it always works. (to be honest – I don’t do that all the time. Sometimes I forget about it in the emotions. Well, yes, I’m human too)
My list for gratitude – I would be thankful if it inspires you too.
- My parents who learned me so much
- My computer that never fails
- The clock on the wall
- Out cat that brings piece
- The farmers that grow our organic vegetables (even if I don’t know them)
- Steve Jobs for having designed the Iphone
- Ken Haberman for wanting to help me with this blog
- The chair I’m sitting at because is give me support
- Drinkable water
- The sun
- My loving wife and son
- … and a million others. It’s just so important to feel grateful at all time.
Here is the rules:
Rule 1: Experience gratitude at all time. Rule 2: Express gratitude. Rule 3: Don’t forget and act upon the first two rules.
That’s all folks
No, that’s not all about week 2. I just deserved a good night of sleep. Come back tomorrow when I will be acting out the feeling good week. Come on and join me!
- The best thing you can do for yourself, for others and for the world is to be happy (Sonia Choquette)
- If you love life, life will love you back (Arthur Rubinstein)
- Nothin is so important than that I feel good today and I am going to find ways to do so today (Gerry and Esther hicks)
- The more you praise and celebrate in life, the more there is in life to celebrate (Oprah Winfrey)
- Rule 1 is to have a good time – Rule 2 is don’t forget the rule (Warren Buffet)
- Everything is hardest to obtain when you need it the most (Ken Haberman)
- We are most attractive to our desire when we are happy about it (Ken Haberman)
- The better you feel, the more good you attack in life.
- Seeking joy should be the first part of any plan for positive changes (Ken Haberman)
- If you’re climbing a mountain – it doesn’t matter how secure your footing was a minute ago. All that matters is right now. (ken Haberman)
- It’s simple to “live in the now” – that doesn’t mean is easy. It only becomes easy when we are there. (Jakob)
- If you want to feel rich, just count all the things money can’t buy.
- Gratitude is not only the greatest of all virtues – but the parent of all others. (Cicero, roman statesman)