Putting self development training to the test. In these blogs I am reading and testing the Intimate Modeling course from Ken Haberman.
Not everything happens as planned. But as the late Stephen Covey said in his book on The Sever Habits – we should concentrate on our circle of influence.
For some reason I sometimes fall into the pitfall and get my attention outside this circle. My ill son, a broken car, … whatever.
It’s a good lesson for me to keep my attention on those things that I can influence. Right now I have time to read and write. It’s late – but I do not feel tired yet.
The Power of the Hearth
Yesterday night – rather than reading in Intimate Modeling – my wife and I watched the movie “The Power of the Hearth”.
I can recommend anyone to see this movie! It’s very compatible with the messages from this course.
This docu was made with some writers I really admire like Isabel Allende and Paulo Coelho.
It’s true – we spend by far more time with ourselves than with anyone else. Wherever we go – whichever time in our lives – ourselves are always with us.
I’m getting the point from Ken Haberman. It’s not snobbism or something alike.
Loving ourselves improves our relation with others. In fact – our relation with others mirrors the relation we have with ourselves.
I head to read this twice to really grasp it.
The mindsets for this week
- Seek only to impress yourself
- Thrust your inner guide
- Treat your body and spirit as temples
- Invest in yourself
- Free yourself from judgment
Seek only to impress yourself
What I learned from this mindset is to concentrate on my own strength. And to seek other people to do those things that are not my strength.
I also learned to speak about myself as an equal to the people I admire most of all.
Thrust your inner guide
Reading this mindset made me aware that I do have an inner guide. And that this inner voice that I often hear is not just an annoying little devil – rather it is a wise angel that is in me.
I have really powerful and wise friends giving well thought advice. I love them. It is OK to listen to their advice. But my inner guide is my most important advisor.
The idea of thrusting the inner guide feels relaxed and powerful. I will give this attention this week.
Treat your body and spirit as temples
I confess. I confess that the last months I haven’t been treating my body and spirit too well. Not bad neither. But “not bad” is far from a temple. I wonder how fast I can change my habits here.
Maybe I can split it up into a few measurable changes:
- No more real coffee this week (I always drink this with sugar)
- Always sleep before midnight (now is an exception – it’s over midnight – let’s move on!)
- Go for running twice a week. Monday and Wednesday.
Invest in yourself
I wonder how… What will I do different this week…
I know – I will take more time in completing my diary. And clean up. I’ll invest more time in looking good. Don’t yet know how exactly. I guess this will depend on the situation.
- You, yourself as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserver your love and attention. (Buddha)
- You take yourself with you to wherever you go.
- Don’t change so people will like you. By yourself and the people will love the real you.
- There is no substitute for loving yourself (Ken Haberman)
- It is impossible to love yourself too much (Ken Haberman)
- The law can offer some protection from harm by others. But the law cannot stop people from harming themselves (Thomas Jefferson)
- The greatest wealth is health (Virgil)